Growing up, I was never effectively taught problem solving and in many ways I have had to work extra hard as an adult to compensate for that. Problem solving to me is the ability to set aside the experience/feelings of a challenge and examine the mechanics of it in order to remedy what isn’t working.
People say that Jiu Jitsu is human chess. I agree, its basically physical problem solving with drastically different experiences and consequences based on how good you are at it.
Most kids assume one of two things when they fail at a task. 1. They don’t see the mistake and think they are doing great. 2. They are so aware of the mistake that they think they are incapable. Neither one of these are true or helpful. Its the job of a coach and parents to guide a kid through the experience of examining the results they got, and what they can do about it.
Sometimes, there isn’t much you could have done different. The other 98% of the time there is.
This is where problem solving comes in. It has to be a way of life. As I get older, I see that most successful people are people who have become skilled at solving bigger and bigger problems.
Teach your kids to honor their feelings and experiences, but then examine the pieces on the board and choose well.
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